Monday, July 18, 2011

100 Days to 1000 Blessings - Day 6

10 blessings to add to my list...

51.  Going to a Mudcats baseball game on a beautiful summer night with my husband and son, and watching fireworks at the end - Classic Americana!

52. Getting an email ( even a short one ) from my soldier son makes my day.  He let me know yesterday that he has arrived at his base in Iraq.

53. On Saturday, we celebrated the 18th birthday of my sweet baby girl by going to The Cheesecake Factory  - our family and 2 of her bestest friends. :-)



54.  Kahlua Chocolate Cheesecake....mmmmmm

55. Having good friends rally around you in times of trial is pure gold.

56.  And being able to be an encouragement and support for friends in return.  It goes both ways.

57. A friend asked me to hold her little baby grandson while she did some shopping at the Book Sale on Saturday - oh yeah.

58.  Singing songs of praise and worship in church on Sunday mornings fills my heart with joy

59. Knowing that God loves my children even more than I do is a comfort and helps me to release my worry.... most of the time.

60.  John 11:25   Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies."


Sunday, July 17, 2011

Shattered Illusions - RIP SPC Lucas Elliott

Those of you who read my blog know that my oldest son entered the Army after graduating from college and has just arrived in Iraq for his 2nd tour of duty.  I have also commented on the number of young men and women from our homeschool group here in li'l old WF who have entered the armed forces and are serving their country.  It isn't because they lack other options - it is because they have a deep-seated patriotism and sense of duty.  These kids were between 10 and 16 years old when they watched television coverage as terrorists struck the Twin Towers and Pentagon , and I think those events had a huge impact on them and their view of the world. They feel a need to protect, to defend, to contribute to making the world safe and their nation and families secure.

On Friday, the possible but unthinkable happened when one of these young men was killed by an IED in southern Iraq.  An athletic  boy who played on the same baseball team as my Eric. A rambunctious boy who loved hunting, fishing, and riflery.  A handsome boy with a buzz cut, deep dimples, and a grin a mile wide.   I was just leaving our support group's Used Book Sale when my cell phone rang, and a friend told me what she had just heard from her firefighter son -  Lucas had been killed in Iraq, or maybe it was Afghanistan! She didn't know.   Since the news had not yet been released to the public, I went home and searched for facebook statuses to confirm, hoping that perhaps it was a mistake.  But there it was - the grim truth found in an outpouring of shock, support, and condolences on the mother's facebook page.

My son was en route to Iraq.  I hid behind a carefully crafted illusion that Iraq was pretty safe now. Things were quiet there. Afghanistan was the scary place.  I wanted this terrible thing to have happened in Afghanistan, where my son was not going.

Illusions shattered.


http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/9871376/


I am an extremely blessed woman, with friendships of pure gold.  A number of these friends sent me notes or called to check on me.  Me.  Knowing that this news would hit hard, with Alex on his way over there. I think I do, but I really don't hide my feelings very well.

Shelley and Lea showed up at my door after church today.  Shelley, who was Lucas's CAP commander during his early high school years.  Lea, whose son Josh was injured in Iraq when the vehicle he was riding in hit an IED.  Lucas's mom, Patti, was president of the local chapter of the Blue Star Mothers at that time, and walked with Lea through every torturous step of those days. They hugged me and asked if I wanted to come with them ... to the Elliott's house.  My heart jumped into my throat. At first I didn't think I could... but then I knew I needed to.  I'm not close to this family.  We have casually known each other as our kids interacted occasionally on the ballfield or in homeschool activities growing up. I am friends with people they are friends with.  I never would have thought of going over there on my own.  But I wanted to hug this mama of a fallen soldier and let her know I cared.

It was good.  There were a lot of people there -  family, friends, and other Blue or Gold Star Mothers.  It was quiet but not hushed. People were gathered in small groups, talking, remembering, consoling.  We hugged Patti and signed the notebook on the counter, so that next week, when the blur of today and tomorrow and the next day are past, she will know who came to the house. I got to hug and quickly catch up with my good friend Kris, who I rarely see because both her kids are graduated now and she is working full time. We sat on the couch with Lucas's older brother, Brad, who was looking through photos of his brother on the computer. We stayed for about an hour, and then said our goodbyes.  Arrangements are still being made and a memorial service will be planned for sometime in the coming days.  Lucas will receive a fallen hero's burial at Arlington National Cemetery in VA.

I chatted with my friend, Karen, this morning. Her son is also on his way to Iraq, just a few days behind Alex.  This is his first time over. She has questions that I can't always answer.  But we military moms have a bond. Our children are grown up and off to war, and we are home on our knees, praying desperately that they will come home again.

Lucas was a Christian. He knew the Lord, so we know he is with his Saviour now.






Friday, July 15, 2011

Another year in the Sandbox

Alex has been deployed again, and I sure would appreciate your prayers for him during this next year as he serves our country in Iraq - "the Sandbox".  This is his 2nd tour ( funny, that makes it sound like a tourist on vacation ) and this time he is a captain in the US Army, and is the supply officer for his battalion (?). He will be getting out after this deployment, as his initial commitment is coming to an end and he is not going to sign up for more.

Temp where he is right now is around 120 degrees F. In his words, "you don't really get used to that."  He got off the plane with strep throat, but after "a couple of BIG shots and some pills", he is feeling much better.

I don't have a mailing address yet, but if you'd like to send him a card or care package, let me know and I'll pass that info along when I get it. 

This picture is from his last time overseas......





Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Well... that's not what I wanted to hear!

Modern medicine.
It is marvelous, isn't it?  There are so many things that doctors can cure or fix today that once would have been deadly or at least much more serious. And there are specialists for every part of the human anatomy, so you can be sure to get the best, most cutting-edge info about what ails you if you see the right person.

So when I went to the orthopedist today about the knee pain that has been progressively getting worse to the point of being almost debilitating, I expected him to tell me what was wrong and how we were going to fix it!  Not tell me that I might just have to accept that I won't be able to do the things I did before. You see, I have arthritis; maybe a miniscus tear in there.  Try this topical cream and some exercises, and if that doesn't help, then a brace sometimes provides relief.   Losing weight is always a good idea - and the fact that exercise is painful isn't an excuse because I just need to reduce my intake of calories. (thanks for that one, Doc.) And down the road, if all else fails, we can look at some kind of surgery. 

No, exercise won't damage anything. It might be uncomfortable but it won't damage anything.
In other words, suck it up. Grin and bear it.

Not. Happy.

I need to go work on my list of blessings.....


Friday, July 8, 2011

100 Days to 1000 Blessings - Day 5

List 10 Blessings a Day for 100 Days.
... honestly, I'm having to dig a little harder for the blessings today.  That is why this is a good exercise.

41. A good friend of Jason's had eye surgery this week.  It was a somewhat controversial procedure that they hope will restore some aspects of his vision that have always been deficient. His mom, Tammy, reports that things went well. 

42. I took Jason and friend to the movie theater on Tuesday morning for a free summer movie, "How to Train Your Dragon".  Even though we own that DVD, it was still a treat to sit in the theater and watch it on the big screen.

43.  Mark arrived home safely Monday night after driving 1500 miles home from TX with Alex's car. 

44. The AC is now NOT working in the van, BUT..... we now have Alex's car here, so we still have enough vehicles with AC. :-)  

45.  A friend of mine was just diagnosed with Leukemia, BUT the doctor thinks it is the not-so-scary kind, CML.  Putting our hope and trust in a great and holy God as she awaits the results of the bone marrow biopsy.

46. Jason's All-Star baseball team won their 1st game this week. Love watching my kids play.

47.  I was privileged to be able to talk about homeschooling with a group of new homeschool parents last night.  It is a blessing to be able to pass along the encouragement that was given to me when I started so many years ago.

48. The visas came in this week for Amanda's mission trip to Uganda in August. One step closer. 

49. The hydrangea and gardenia bushes I planted out front 2 months ago are growing and look great!  Another victory for the non-gardener!

50. Ephesians 2:8-9  For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith  - and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast.




Monday, July 4, 2011

Simple Woman's Day Book - July



Happy 4th of July! 


FOR TODAY : July 4, 2011

Outside my window... it is dark and raining

I am thinking...about my son, who has just arrived in Kuwait, en route to Iraq, where he'll be spending the next year

I am thankful ... that my husband arrived home safely this afternoon, after driving 1500 miles in 2 days in Alex's car, which we'll be keeping while he is overseas

From the learning rooms.
..  we are on summer break for a couple more weeks

From the kitchen... Sarah made stir-fried veggies and chicken for supper, and chocolate chip-yogurt cookies :-)

I am creating...a high school transcript for my daughter

I am going... to TN next weekend, to move my oldest daughter there for her new adventure, interning with Safe World Nexus

I am reading...  Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling , by John Taylor Gatto

I am hoping./ praying ... for safety and protection for my son, Alex, and all the American servicemen and women who are bravely serving and in harm's way

I am hearing...  the TV show NCIS, which my husband watches regularly

Around the house... the piles are growing out of control - school books, laundry, a few bags of Alex's belongings, boxes of Sarah's stuff waiting to move to TN, piles of Eric's stuff that he brought back from college, bins of Lighthouse sports equipment. ugh.

One of my favorite things... is watching my kids play sports.  My 12-yr-old made the town's Little League All-Star team, and will be playing in a tournament this week.

A few plans for the rest of the week:... helping with an Introduction to Homeschooling meeting on Thursday night

Here is a picture thought I am sharing..

Fun family time at the bowling alley!







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Sunday, July 3, 2011

100 Days to 1000 Blessings - Day 4

10 Blessings a Day for 100 Days....

Hmmm, this starts to get harder after you've gone through the "big blessings" of family, health, work, home, friends.  The 100 Days are NOT going to be consecutive...
 

31. A friend's fb post about not having water at her house one day this week reminded me that clean water flowing from my faucets whenever I want it is something I don't think much about, but something that many people in this world don't have.

32. It is the July 4th weekend, and I am so grateful to live in the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave!   God bless the U.S.A.

33.  That little patch of shade to set my lawn chair in during Jason's baseball practice yesterday afternoon - that was a blessing!

34. The fact that my children enjoy spending time together and are real friends makes my heart glad.  My 23 yr old just asked her 12 yr old brother if he wanted to go to WalMart with her, and he turned off the movie he was watching to go. Alex wasn't able to spend a lot of time with Sarah, Eric, and Amanda during his 10 days of leave because they work at an overnight camp, but on his last night home he brought them milk shakes and hung out with his brother and 2 sisters for a little while.  Priceless.

35. After waiting until the LAST MINUTE, we were still able to find the exact car for Sarah that we were hoping for - a used Honda Civic with less than 100,000 miles on it within her price range!  YES!

36. Mark is such a great daddy.  He might grumble a lot, but he will do about anything for his kids. He spent last week finding Sarah a car on Craigslist, taking it to the mechanic to be checked out, getting her insurance, etc. (because she was at camp and couldn't do it)   Then he flew to TX and is spending the holiday weekend - and the 4th of July is his FAVORITE holiday - driving 1500 miles to bring Alex's car and some other belongings back to NC. 

37.  As we head out to church this morning, I am thankful for the First Amendment to the U.S.Constitution.  "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech; or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances." 

38. Fudgesicles

39. I love this little town we live in.  There is a big Independence Day celebration tonight, with live music, skydivers, concessions, and fireworks, and then tomorrow is the Children's Parade, where kids decorate their bikes and wagons in red, white, and blue and walk up and down N.Main Street, then head over to the town park for sack races, water balloon toss, tug of war, and crafts.


Children's Parade, 1997

40.  Isaiah 40:28-31   The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not grow faint.




Wednesday, June 29, 2011

100 Days to 1000 Blessings - Day 3

Rediscovering joy!  List 10 blessings every day for 100 days.


21. Afternoon thundershowers yesterday brought some needed rain and brief relief from temps in the high 90's.

22.  We have a mechanic friend who will take a look at a car Sarah might buy and let us know if it is worth the money, since nobody in this family really knows anything about cars!  Thank you, Joe Rego!

23. Double-stuff oreo cookies.  Enough said.

24. I love having contemporary Christian radio stations to listen to, where the music is uplifting and family-friendly and the DJs are kind, encouraging and even pray over the air for their listeners.  Thank you, K-LOVE and HIS Radio, for blessing me as I drive here and there and everywhere.

25. The Public Library is such a cool place!  Thousands of books at my disposal, free for the asking,  when I need something to read besides the thousands of books in my house!

26. My family blessed me with a smartphone last Christmas, and I just found another very cool thing I can do with it!   I misplaced my library card ( again ), and when I walked by the self-checkout counter at the library today I saw a card that said that the scanners read library card barcodes stored on Smartphones!  What?!!!  So I sat down with my little mini hand-held computer aka Droid Incredible, went to the internet and found the name of the "app for that"!  I downloaded the free Cardstar app, entered my library card number ( which I do have memorized!!!  yes, I'm a homeschool mom )  and voila!  I checked my book out using my smartphone.

27. I am thankful for an almost-13-year-old son who still likes to hug me and snuggle on the couch when we watch TV or read. Don't tell him I wrote that here.

28.  Romans 8:38   For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. 

29. I love crawling into my nice soft bed after a long day.

30. My KitchenAid mixer is a great time saver in the kitchen.  I just went over 6 months without a microwave oven, but I don't think I'd last a week without my KitchenAid!


Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Sistas!



This is one of those things that gets passed around and around, and was sent to me by my mom.


A young wife sat on a sofa one hot, humid day, sipping iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

"Don't forget your sisters," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. Remember that 'sisters' means ALL the women in your life .... your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."

"What a funny piece of advice!" the young woman thought. "Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup!  Surely my husband and the family we may start with be all I need to make my life worthwhile!"

But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after the other, she gradually came to undertand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstay of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.

BUT...

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.
Sometimes they will even break the rules and walk beside you..... or come in and carry you out!  Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law,  mothers, grandmothers, aunts, nieces, cousins, extended family...all bless our life!
My world wouldn't be the same without the women in it. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.

Every day we need each other still. Pass this on to the women who help make your life meaningful.


100 Days to 1000 Blessings - Day 2

List 10 blessings a day for 100 days!

11. Sarah, Eric, and Amanda all have summer jobs at New Life Camp. I really couldn't ask for a better work environment for my children!



12. My friends seem to like my cupcakes well enough that not only did I raise enough money for Amanda's mission trip to Uganda this summer, but I am going to be able to send Sarah a support check each month as she works as an unpaid intern for SafeWorldNexus in TN. 

13. My new cupcake decorating tips arrived yesterday - a jumbo 3/4" tip and a jumbo open star tip. And some pretty cupcake paper baking cups as well.

14. I love fresh fruit.  It is summertime, and that means fresh, juicy peaches.  Southern Peach cupcakes will be coming out of the oven this week.

15. In addition to my homeschool support group, I am also part of a Tapestry of Grace Co-op that meets every week during the school year and is made up of the coolest families in the world!  We love our Lollapalooza Co-op!

16.  John 3:16  For God so loved the world ( ME ) that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

17. Jason attended basketball camp at NRBA last week and at NLC this week, both places where they stress not only doing your best and playing hard, but doing everything for God's glory and honor. Both are great programs that run by wonderful, godly men - Mr. Mark Miller and Mr. Greg Burton.  

18.  Our 3 cars are all running and all have AC this summer!

19. I'm very thankful for the "sistas" in my life!  My girlfriends laugh with me, cry with me, pray with me, encourage me, challenge me, debate with me, compliment me, stretch me, support me, love me.  I get to spend a couple of hours with my sista Eve this afternoon.  So glad. :-)

20. Not withstanding summer colds and allergies and normal bumps, scrapes, and bruises, my family is blessed with good health.



Monday, June 27, 2011

100 Days to 1000 Blessings

I've been in a bit of a funk lately, feeling a wee bit sorry for myself, not liking the changes that come with this season of my life.

Soooo.... I came up with the idea of listing 10 blessings a day for 100 days. That makes 1000 blessings!  I know that God is good, all the time.  I know that my cup overflows with his blessings.  I just need to lift my eyes and refocus.  As my camp counselor kids would say - "ATTITUDE CHECK!".



Day 1

1. My oldest son is home for a 10 day visit!  All 7 of us went bowling together on Saturday, and went to church and out to eat on Sunday. :-)

2. I have an air conditioned house, which makes summers in the South oh so much more comfortable.

3. The bank immediately noticed suspicious activity on my debit card yesterday and denied the transaction, so no money was stolen from our account.  Kind of eery that the bank "knows" we wouldn't be withdrawing money from an ATM in Hollywood, CA, but I'm glad they do..

4. Got an email from a far-away friend this morning, which made me smile.

5. My dad is doing well after emergency gallbladder surgery this weekend. Thank you, Lord, for my Dad.

6. During a time when so many people are losing their jobs, my husband's employment has been steady.

7. God's Word is true today, yesterday, and tomorrow.

8. There is a pot of fresh, fragrant herbs growing on my deck - an accomplishment for a decidedly black-thumbed gardener ( is that the opposite of green-thumb?)

9. I am part of an awesome homeschool support group, with a group of amazing ladies at the helm.

10. My husband loves me and tells me so quite often. :-)

There, I feel better already.


Sunday, June 26, 2011

When Cleaning the Closet is Traumatic

I really, really don't like this stage I am in right now. 

My youngest two children are turning 18 and 13 years old this summer - both "milestones" on the growing-up scale. 

About 2 months ago, my youngest asked me if we were going to put the 3rd bed back in the boys' bedroom when Alex gets out of the Army next year.  I had to gently inform him that his big brother, at age 26, will not be moving back home again.  That was an "ahhhhh" moment of realization for him.

Sarah leaves in 2 weeks. Since she graduated from college last year, she moved to CT to work for a few months, and then back to Boone to work at the college for a few months, but both those times we knew it was temporary and she was coming back home.  This time, she's hoping this move will be somewhat permanent.

Eric graduates from college in the spring. 

So on to the closet.   I am terrible about holding on to things, and know that I NEED to declutter the house this summer.  I have to get myself psyched up, and then for a few days I can be ruthless. But it never lasts very long.  Well, I was thinking today that I might tackle the pantry/craft closet tomorrow.  Along with serving platters, extra glassware, candlesticks, canned goods, and cookbooks, I have about 6 years of FamilyFun magazines in there, plus craft books, bins of craft supplies and a huge stack of construction paper.  Chances are, Jason isn't going to use most of that stuff anymore.  The real art supplies, yes.  But the pony beads, feathers, styrofoam shapes, and crayons? 

I am such a mess! That stuff is a big part of my motherhood. I'm not sure I can get rid of it.



Friday, June 24, 2011

Regrets, I Have a Few - Investing in Family

The kids are growing up. They don't all live here any more.  It gets harder and harder to get the whole family together, and when they are all home, what do we do?

Looking back, I have some regrets. We invested lots of time and energy in raising our children, in homeschooling them, in building strong relationships and family memories. I wish we had invested more in making our home a welcoming gathering spot for our kids and their friends.  Friends have always been welcome in our home, and I love preparing food and having people here. We have had some great games of UNO and Spoons at our kitchen table.  But we have not made the investments in our house and yard that would provide space and entertainment for young people and adults to congregate and enjoy hanging out.  Our yard is full of weeds and holes , with only a lone basketball goal that has branches hanging in front of it.  Our deck is small and wobbly, with a single lounge chair.  We have a nice TV and video game systems. We have board games and cards. That's about it.

We have taken trips as a family that have created some wonderful memories - to Disney World, Williamsburg, Mammoth Caves, Washington, DC, annual trips to Massachusetts to visit family, and a 6-week cross-country camping trip to see the scenic wonders of the western U.S.   But now that my kids are older, I wish we had taken some of that money and put in a swimming pool, a volleyball court, horseshoes, a game room, a bocce court.   I wish there was something HERE that would attract my grown children to want to invite their friends to hang out, or would be a fun way to spend a day with their siblings, rather than wracking our brains to think of someplace we can GO  that everyone enjoys and that fits in everyone's schedule.

This was my dream when our kids were small. I always wanted to have a big house that would be the hub for my children  and all their friends.  I wanted OUR house to be the place where everyone wanted to be.   But the "dream" never turned into a "plan".  It never became a priority.

And now here we are.  My 26-year-old is here from TX to visit for a week, and then he is going overseas and we won't see him for at least a year.  My 12-yr-old is at basketball day camp during the week, and the 23 yr old, 21yr old, and 17 yr old are all working at an overnight summercamp,, and will only be home for the weekend.  So that gives us one day, Saturday, to spend together as a family.  My kids LIKE to spend time together as a family.  Our years of homeschooling have at least built that strong foundation. But what do we do?  We thought of going to a water park or beach or amusement park for the day, but he also wants to be able to visit old college friends in the evening. All those things are a couple of hours away and need a whole day , so that doesn't work.  

It would have been nice if we could have had a cook-out and invited people over to swim or play volleyball or bocce or whatever.  That would have made an earlier investment of time and money well worth it.

My husband wants  the two of us to splurge and go to Hawaii for our 30th wedding anniversary next year. While that sounds like fun and I'd love to visit Hawaii, once that money is spent and that trip is over, we have nothing but the memories.    I would rather put that money toward something that we can enjoy over and over again and that our family could enjoy too.  Maybe a hot tub.




Thursday, June 23, 2011

Summer S's

It is officially SUMMER!
We've been on school break for several weeks now, and enjoying the change of routine!

SPORTS
Jason is playing Little League baseball and his team, the Mets, is undefeated so far this season. They won their 1st tournament game last night and play in the semi-finals tonight.  He is also in basketball camp this week, where they work him and the other 40 kids hard on skills, drills, and scrimmages, so he is one tired 12-year-old when we get home at night!

SABRINA
My niece came down from CT for a visit last week, to go to Teen Week at New Life Camp. She came a few days early so we had some time to hang out, and she and J went ice skating and played several games of Monopoly. 



SUN
The day before Teen Week began,  we drove down to the NC coast for a day at the beach!  I love spending the day with my family, but the beach isn't my favorite place, mostly because I don't enjoy sitting out in the sun!  But this time, we stopped at a "beach store" on the way and bought a BEACH UMBRELLA for me!  Perfect! 


the umbrella could be bigger... but it works for me



SMOKE
Wildfires 2+ hours east and southeast of here produced very smoky, hazy conditions here in the Triangle early this week, enough that a Code Orange Air Quality alert caused youth baseball games to be cancelled on Tuesday night, and camp to move all their activities inside for the afternoon AND all campers to sleep inside the gymnasiums on Tuesday night!  That was a first.  The winds have shifted and the smoke has cleared away now.  But that was weird. 


SOLDIER
Alex is home for 10 days of leave!  YAY!  He is heading to Iraq again in a few weeks, so we won't see or hear much from him for the next year.  So I'm trying to get my fill now. :-)   His 4 year commitment to the Army comes to an end in the middle of this deployment, but  he'll finish the tour and then get out when he comes back to the states.   I am proud of him for serving his country, but I have to say I'll breathe easier when he is out.  Hopefully the experience he has gotten as an officer will help him land a civilian job later on. 

SWEETS
I'm still baking cupcakes, and this week the flavor is "Elvis" - banana chocolate chip cake topped with peanut butter frosting, chopped peanuts and a banana chip.   Last week it was "S'mores" , which was chocolate cake sitting on a graham cracker crust, topped with toasted marshmallow frosting! Money is going to Amanda's mission trip to Uganda with Ten Eighteen and to help support Sarah during her internship with Safe World Nexus!







Friday, June 17, 2011

Summer Reading List for Homeschool Parents

Summer is a great time to get in some reading, either while the kids are at camp or visiting grandma or while the family is on vacation.   Instead of grabbing a romance novel or the latest political thriller, why not consider some titles that will challenge you to be a better parent or spouse, or help shape and define your homeschooling philosophy or Biblical worldview?

Here are some great books that I have enjoyed reading and that have impacted me in those areas! Feel free to add your favorites in the comment section. 



The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child's Heart for Eternity  by Sally Clarkson

I love all of Sally Clarkson's writing, and this one really speak's to a mother's heart and to building a loving relationship with our children. 






Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Tripp

This book speaks to getting to the heart of your child when it comes to discipline, not just dealing with a certain behavior. You might not agree with everything he has to say, but you will  definitely find lots of good, sensible advice on raising children who obey out of love and conviction rather than out of fear or manipulation.








Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens  by Paul David Tripp

Raising teens doesn't have to be scary! Rather than another buddy or an unbending drill sargeant, teens need a mentor, guide, and loving authority figure to help them navigate the challenges of growing up.



I Kissed Dating Goodbye:  A New Attitude Towards Romance and Relationships  by Joshua Harris

If your kids are still little, read this book now and start thinking about how you will talk about romance with your children. Even elementary children get asked, "Do you have a boyfriend?" If you have middle school or high school ages kids, read this book and then have your kids read it too.  Whether or not you follow Mr. Harris's recommendations, he will give you a lot to think about!


Raising Real Men: Surviving, Teaching and Appreciating Boys  by Hal and Melanie Young

If you have boys, this is a must-read!  Our society is very confused about raising boys, and it is refreshing to read the Young's solid, biblical, and common-sense approach!







Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling by John Taylor Gatto

Former NY city and state teacher of the year holds no punches in his critique of the public education system and its agenda to stamp out passion, creativity and individuality in favor of group-think. This is a book everyone should read!



How Now Shall We Live?  by Charles Colson and Nancy Pearcey

A worldview is the set of underlying beliefs and assumptions through which we view every aspect of life. Being a Christian doesn't automatically mean you hold a biblical or Christian worldview. This important book addresses the building of a biblical worldview and how to engage a post-modern culture that has rejected most everything associated with that way of thinking.



The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Dr. Chapman, who has worked as a marriage counselor for 30 years, identifies 5 "love languages" which fill our "love tank" - Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.   I found his writing to be humorous and his examples spot-on!  Reading this helped me to understand my husband better.  It would be most helpful for both husband and wife to read it. :-)