I was recently talking with a young mom whose 3 children were all preschoolers. Her oldest was approaching "school age", and she was considering homeschooling but had a lot of questions. I love talking to people about homeschooling and I think questions are GREAT.
Anyway, this mom was concerned because her child was rather clingy and didn't like being away from her, and people around her were telling her that this child NEEDED to learn to be away from her. So obviously, homeschooling was a terrible idea because how would her child learn to be independent and to get along with others, right?
I looked this mom in the eyes and gently said, "It is perfectly normal for your preschooler to want to be with you. Young children are SUPPOSED to want to be with their parents. Young children NEED their parents. That is God's design."
It was like the weight of the world fell off of this precious mama's shoulders. Her whole face lit up as she whispered, "You're right!"
We talked about the many ways that a mother can teach her child social skills as they are out and about in their community, shopping, going to the library, going to church, going to the post office.
"When you are with mommy, it is safe to answer a stranger when they say hello. Look in the person's eyes and say hello. Great job!"
"It's not polite to point at people and say things about them, honey. It might hurt their feelings."
"Don't forget to say 'please' and 'thank you'.
Our society has decided that experts should raise children, and parents must peel those tiny, trusting fingers off of their own and "separate" themselves from their babies. Then the parents will be FREE - free to pursue their own interests, go out and make a buck (so they can send at least half of the paycheck to the government ), go to the gym, volunteer, or do other very important stuff. And some "expert" - thoroughly immersed, of course, in the most progressive child development theories - can worry about raising those kids.
To me, that is very sad. What does your heart tell you?